[Flying My Frumkeit] More Truths About Me

[gnomi]

-- Even though I've covered my hair for over 10 years now, I have a category of people who get to see my hair who do not fall into the "family" category. This category includes men who have seen me in my pajamas, because my theory is that it's silly to be willing to be in PJs around someone and not let them see my hair.

-- I'm never sure, when I go to the doctor, if I should remove my hat or not. I've pondered this in this space before. And does it make a difference if my dentist's office is all women? I mean, yeah, I cover my hair around women, too, but if it's just me and a bunch of women, I've been known to remove my hat.

-- I'm not shomeret negiah. I'll greet people with hugs, and I frequently do. However, I don't extend my hand for a handshake in most situations unless the other party does first. Yeah, I know, that's kind of contradictory. There are friends who start to greet me with a hug who then hold back, thinking I'd be uncomfortable with it. More than once I've gotten into odd dances that are essentially the "is that a hug? Did I misunderstand? Wait... now what are they doing?" twostep. In general, if the person is a close enough friend that *they'd* want to greet *me* with a hug, I'll hug back.

Comments

[gingicat]

I tend to assume that it's okay to hug frum members of the same sex but not frum members of the opposite sex, unless told otherwise.

(When Joshua and I saw the Bakers at Arisia, I hugged Debbie and Joshua, being a child, hugged both. *grin*)

I've long since decided that going to the OB/GYN means modesty is out the window... but my OB/GYN having a frum male medical student working with him really freaked me, especially when he was teaching the student to do exams.

[gnomi.livejournal.com]

All of that makes sense.

I've never had a frum male doctor, so I haven't had that be an issue, but I could see how it would be awkward. Kind of like talking to my rabbi in person about female health issues... (though by e-mail I have no problems).