Ask Rabbi LJ -- Traveling over Shabbat Edition

OK, so. Here's the deal. I'm off to a conference in Virginia Beach next weekend (Shabbat of 9 March, Parshat Ki Tisa, Shabbat Parah). And, well. I'm not going to be able to light candles, since I'll be in a hotel (and hotels tend to frown on open flames). Usually in this sort of situation, I ask someone in the same Shabbat-starting-time-zone to keep me in mind when they light. However, I don't know anyone in the area who will be lighting (licht bentchen is at 5:42 PM in VA Beach). So, do I ask someone lighting earlier (Boston is 5:26), or do I ask someone whose lighting is later but still within "my" 18 minutes (Silver Spring is 5:51)?

(Yes, I plan to ask my rav this question. I was just wondering if someone knows the answer so that I don't have to add "ask odd question at kiddush" to my to-do list.)

Why I adore my sister, bizarre religious discussion edition

Background: beckyfeld is in Israel with osewalrus, A, and the Pearlman parent people. She and I have been IMing periodically during their stay. Conversation turned to Pesach cleaning, biur chametz, and the fact that the family will be in Maine for Pesach this year.

(This may not make much sense to most people at first glance. Poke me for any explanations you need.)

gnomi: We could always throw it into the ocean, thus combining biur chametz and tashlich.
beckyfeld: :-)
gnomi: I have a new chumra for the Chumra of the Month Club, I think -- Tashlich Chametz.
beckyfeld: Maybe it's not Tashlich, but toiveling...
gnomi: T'vilat chametz?
beckyfeld: Maybe in order to eat chametz on Pesach you need to toivel it first...

In the spirit of Linda Richman...

...the best kosher rugelach in Manhattan: Discuss!